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MAMA’S MUSINGS by Lani Goins - Keeping in touch

Monday, May 18, 2020 by The Press in Opinion

I miss my grandmas sometimes. I was blessed to know two of them, at different times in my life. I learned a great deal from both of them.

Grandma Betty lived through the Great Depression, and both world wars, though she was a child during WWI. She taught me to sew and to bake. She had a pantry overstocked with canned goods and dry foods, a common thing for people who endured the food shortages during the Great Depression.

She and her late husband had owned a general store, and the big freezers from the store came to reside in her basement.

The funny thing is, she could bake, but her cooking? Not so much. Still, the skills she taught me have helped me in adulthood. Baking is one of the things that calms me, and when we ran low on bread during the isolation period, I opted to make my own.

Grandmother Celia was my “third” biological relative. I met her not long after meeting my birth mother, though Celia was my birth father’s mother.

Meeting her the first time was slightly shocking. Until then, I had not met a biological relative who shared my looks. Seeing my grandmother the first time? Same face, eyes, nose, mouth and hair.

She told me about her family, and about growing up in Puerto Rico, and I learned the source of many traits and talents I have that differed from those of my adopted family.

My grandmas are both gone now, and sometimes when I pause for a moment, I miss them. Still, I am glad they aren’t living through early 2020. I know we can’t hug while social distancing, but if you are lucky enough to still have grandparents, please call, text, email, Skype, Zoom, keep in touch however you can.